Does Arrogance Like This Work?

A client who said she lacked confidence asked me a great question:  When does confidence come across as arrogance?

The question is timely.  House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi how dismissed assertions that she should resign her long-held leadership post, saying, “I am a master legislator.”

Pelosi has been the House’s top Democrat since 2007.  She has faced repeated suggestion that she step down since 2010, when Republicans took control of the chamber in a wave election.

“Self-promotion is a terrible thing, but somebody has to do it,” the California lawmaker told “Fox News Sunday. “I am a master legislator. I know the budget to the nth degree … I feel very confident about the support I have in my caucus.”

Does that sound like confidence or arrogance?  Most of the clients I’ve coached have a confidence problem.  I help them build their confidence.  Yes, occasionally a client will come to me saying others describe them as “arrogant.  They ask for guidelines to help.

Does Arrogance Like This Work?:  Takeaways

  • Arrogant and confident people treat others in a different way.
  • An arrogant person thinks they are better than others, while a confident person knows they are just as good as others.
  • Confident people will rarely be found lecturing or preaching to others or how they are wrong.
  • They usually show respect while listening to somebody.
  • Arrogant people have difficulty listening to others.
  • They often exude negative energy and blame others if things do not work out as expected.
  • Get others to praise you rather than you praising yourself.
  • You’ll find no downside in that approach.
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Bob Kaplitz

Bob coaches executives and managers on developing their leadership skills, which improves the morale and efficiency of their companies. He mentors individuals through Everwise, which optimizes the way companies develop their people by connecting professionals with the experts and resources they need to be successful.

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